Even in the sacrament of marriage, the sexual life of the spouses is the subject of an examination of conscience to confirm that it is a true expression of love and that it helps growth in love.

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That is where the often comes in. The writers also recommend that we incorporate the practice of forgiveness to our daily examination of conscience.

Source: https://www.ncregister.com/features/forgiveness-is-not-easy-but-unforgiveness-leaves-us-lost